Consciously Losing Control of Your Life


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What are we truly capable of?

What would happen if we consciously chose to let go — to stop trying to control people, places, and things? I propose, ownership of our lives.

What if our perspective of business dealings and the modeling of our personal lives shifted from controlling to releasing? Focused on what we have to share with each other instead of taking from each other — imagine what we could accomplish. I bet, pretty big things.

Taught to go out and grab life by the horns, we have learned to be aggressive. Aggression, given the state of affairs in our world according to news headlines, health concerns, and continued exclusivity have served us, in my opinion — not so well.

Would taking charge of our thoughts and emotions offer a higher ROI? I would rather spend my effort and my time finding out that answer by working on opening my heart instead of controlling situations and other unforeseen forces.

For me, taking charge, it’s truest sense — is showing up. Showing up in our collective space with our personal space —both vulnerable and authentic. Vulnerability and authenticity does not imply weakness. It is inclusive of all our strength and dedicated attention on our own well-being, with genuine concern and care for the business at hand —the task — and of each other’s well-being.

It takes courage to show up as ourselves. Stephen Hawking, world renowned theoretical physicist has said that aggression would be the downfall of civilization. I certainly concur — but advocate, that we can change it by encouraging each other’s possibility while cultivating our own self worth.

In my book The Grace of Redefining Love, I suggest that we are each other’s motivation for possibility.

“Aggression insists on oppressive limitation so we can feel safe. None of it is real, none of it is true, and none of it is lasting. Authentic motivation comes from and through each others heart center. One of the most empowering realizations we can make is this. By encouraging each other’s possibility, we encourage our own.”

—excerpt from The Grace of Redefining Love.

Consciously choosing to lose control of our life means stepping into a situation that, could be one of crisis, yes, but more often than not, means stepping into our authentic selves. It means consistently returning, over and over again, to our heart center. Returning to a state of calm —now scientifically proven to lower blood pressure and expand our thinking —therefore, allowing us to be more effective.

Developing a personal practice for showing up can give us a fluid form to live by — to recode our lives so-to-speak. Mine calms me. It grounds me in the morning with an integrity of creating good.

My personal practice begins in the first 30 minutes upon waking. This is what really keeps me living on point for the day.

My practice consists of getting up and stretching. Then I may read a page or two of poetry or a verse from A Course in Miracles, or something else that promotes peace and well-being. Ready to enter the world I recite this mantra: Let me send love outward for miles — let me leave love wherever I place my feet. 

That’s how I like to roll.

We have so much to gain by learning to dance through life instead of controlling it. Feeling safe enough to include others in our creations engages empathy and compassion. Asking what it is they wish to build can only expedite our best possible probabilities. There really is enough to go around.



Authentic Motivation

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You are Possible

Authentic motivation comes from and through each others heart center. One of the most empowering realizations we can make is this. By encouraging each other’s possibility, we encourage our own.




NO FEAR FRIDAY—It’s All About Love!

No Fear Friday is a weekly campaign on INSTAGRAM aimed at replacing fear with love. Being the dreamer that I am, I began this forum in 2015 as a way to encourage us all to seek out the goodness in life.

We live in challenging, yet, extraordinary times — FULL of energy and possibility. You and I have the ability and the social responsibility to redefine our views, perceptions, and beliefs about Love and what is possible in our world.

By connecting with each other we strengthen our collective energy and by sharing like-minded posts, we are practicing due diligence to the process of what our heart feels. LOVE. 

Increase good in the world today.

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Remember — you and I have the power to change the world. We are changing it, with each word we speak, and every thought we think.

Namaste! ❤

P.S. Coming soon! I’m publishing my third book titled THE GRACE OF REDEFINING LOVE, Changing Perception. My first book MERGING WORLDS is available on AMAZON.




Waking Instants02: LouAnn

LouAnn lived much of her childhood and teen years in Southern California. In high school, I met her sister then subsequently met her. We would all hang out and talk about music, go for very long walks on the beach — and dream, about moving back to Cali.

It’s funny that as I am writing this, a reminder went off on my iPhone saying that today is her birthday. Really not so funny as it was probably her that set it off. Signs don’t happen any clearer than this!

In April of 2014, LouAnn died from cancer. I miss her, but I choose to remember all the goodness she brought to our world. LouAnn took care of people. She cherished animals and was sort of like the female Saint Francis, Patron Saint of Animals — now that I think of it. Working most her life in a nursing home, she brought comfort and smiles to many. She even took care of my friend Jeanne and her brother, both of whom were on her wing at different times.

How did LouAnn change the trajectory of my life? She listened. She listened to all my music, and being the drummer that she was, she critiqued each song and made sure I heard the good stuff along with the bad — always saying that something would become of it. She believed in signs, she believed in my music, she believed in me. #Gratitude #WakingInstants #PeopleThatMakeADifference #ThankYouLouAnn

We Are – Merging Worlds

“Wellness is an active, lifelong practice of making conscious choices toward a healthy and fulfilling life of pure potential – the integration of all dimensions of being including emotional, environmental, financial, intellectual, nutritional, occupational, physical, social, and spiritual into well-being.” ‪#‎MergingWorlds‬

Angels and Totems

TotemsThe sky was all sorts of beautiful last week. I love cloud formations. This one seemingly filled with angels and animal totems, I found fascinating and almost deliberate. ‪#‎Guideposts‬ ‪#‎AngelsandTotems‬

Shared Vision

vision“What seems empty now is only the space ready to receive that which we are willing to become.”

Are there places we are able to show up in life more alive and present, open and humble, and kind? Can we join together in a shared vision of love and possibility? I vow to try. Namaste 🙂